tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3535246666645795951.post3270259965724157366..comments2023-04-22T20:45:41.884-04:00Comments on full hands: The Problem with PAPsarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02800138092758321499noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3535246666645795951.post-91765953201791593222008-08-05T16:07:00.000-04:002008-08-05T16:07:00.000-04:00Have people actually said those kinds of things? ...Have people actually said those kinds of things? I am stunned! Can you really be that clueless...actually come to think of it M once had a friend who couldn't stand when M played with one of his (millions and millions of) toys--every time M picked something up, the other kid would grab it away...and his mom actually said to me, "M has a hard time sharing, doesn't he?"Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14748454816480995214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3535246666645795951.post-43542245022526608192008-07-31T00:38:00.000-04:002008-07-31T00:38:00.000-04:00Is it possible to high-five across the Internet? '...Is it possible to high-five across the Internet? 'Cause you said this just right.LiteralDanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16704368269389527451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3535246666645795951.post-86179487136277929912008-07-30T15:55:00.000-04:002008-07-30T15:55:00.000-04:00I think this is just a cowardly way for a parent t...I think this is just a cowardly way for a parent to have a conversation with the other adult about their child's behavior. And instead of taking responsibility for their child, because it's too embarrassing, they make it about your child. I don't think a lot of this is consciously done but that doesn't excuse it. I also think kids like this don't end up growing up blaming their parents for everything, they grow up blaming everyone else because their parents are still in their lives when they are forty years old telling them how mean the big bad world is and that no one understands them like their parents do.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06671845397909871341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3535246666645795951.post-84674601172884261492008-07-30T13:37:00.000-04:002008-07-30T13:37:00.000-04:00PAP= Passive-Aggressive Parenting CommentI agree t...PAP= Passive-Aggressive Parenting Comment<BR/><BR/>I agree that parents mix up their children greatly when they are passive (they don't teach a better way of thinking and acting) and then aggressively bite them when confused children don't respond the way the parent wants them to. I show parents how to use logic, not drama with their children. Children respond to logic; we all do. Unfortunately, many parents are not as direct when they discipline their children and the discipine turns into punishment. Children don't need punishment as much as they need instruction. When parents use logic and not drama (punishment, aggression, hitting, spanking, chastizing) the parent is creating a hostile learning environment. This shuts down learning. <BR/><BR/>I've taught Breakthrough Parenting classes for 25 years. One of the benefits my students report is after taking the course they have the self assurance day to day that they are doing the right thing. <BR/><BR/>Jayne Major, Ph.D.<BR/>www.breakthroughparentingonline.comJayne Majorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07113103822570758781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3535246666645795951.post-20706002234138318112008-07-30T00:23:00.000-04:002008-07-30T00:23:00.000-04:00I do something similar to that all the time, but t...I do something similar to that all the time, but the other way around. "See how nicely that boy is sharing his toys?" "Look, M ate all his chicken!"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com